You’re A Dating Player: Shit Test or Genuine Fear?
You’re A Dating Player: Shit Test or Genuine Fear?
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Every girl i interact with has the same initial response to me, in fact its as soon as they see me, this is what they’re thinking : “He’s a Dating Player”. Now this might not be the first thing that pops into their head, as its obviously, “damn that guys (hot, cute, sexy, etc.)”, but it’s directly followed up with, the he’s a player thought. When you run tight game this will be you’re biggest Anti-Slut Defense shield. It can mess up a man’s mind if he’s not aware of what ASD is, or if he’s completely unaware of how he’s being perceived. And he can get blown out, often and frequently. It’s happened to me, at points where i’ve not been running good game, not been self aware, and things of that nature. Basically when i had oneitis or long dry spell, or in a relationship for too long. There are a couple of safety tips for you guys out there to remember.
Safety Tip# 11: Always be aware of your sexual market place value and perception. The reality of it, not your delusions of it.
Of course there really is only one way to find the reality of this, be aware, and be talking and approaching girls. Otherwise you got blinders on and you are assuming things, and when you assume things, and things aren’t going well for you, you will sink into a depression, or a whirlpool of self doubt and beta bitterness. Places you do not want to go. There is absolutely no pussy there, even the gross 1′s and 2′s don’t dwell there (of course even 1′s and 2′s now think they’re 4′s and 5′s. Absurd i know, but true). But knowing where you stand with girls, will allow you to move forward and allow yourself freedom to manuever. See girls know there are tons of men out there that will fuck them. They have no problem letting a cool, good looking guy get away, for any reason, because they know they can get another one, just as good, or better – so their screening process is fierce. They don’t want to be used, except the ones that do, but thats a different thing all together. So my point, if you don’t know how you are being perceived, you can’t see the mines in the field. You’ll say something too cocky and forward, boom, there goes you’re legs, you over played your player card, or preselection card. Which brings me to:
Safety tip #12: Being called a player is both a compliment, and a shit test, but not an insult. It’s a girl’s fear, but also their desire, to tame the bad boy. Gaging this depends on their current spot on the cock meter they are, fewer cocks, more of a compliment, lotsa cocks, shit test and fear.
If you are not perceived as a player, feel free to keep reading, because as you’re game gets tighter it will no doubt come up in future interactions. If there is no way a girl will ever think you are a player, you are doing something wrong. Every girl wants the player, she just doesn’t want to be played. She wants the cool, good looking guy, who knows his way with women, and gets women, and is in demand. It is the highest value for a girl, that’s why rich guys get so much poon, because every girl assumes the other girls want in on that parade, and the poon party begins. For us guys with looks and normal bank accounts, and tight game, it’s our looks and game that make them assume we are in demand. What the girl doesn’t want, of course, is to be just another notch on your bed post. (there are exceptions, they’re called girl players or just sluts that like to fuck – like i said before, different game all together). She wants to feel special. She wants to be special. How does that happen? By you reassuring her that you are choosing her, and you don’t mess around. Basically this is where you need the comfort zone. Too many girls have gotten away from me because i didnt understand this crucial fact. And of course that is the line that you can use, it works great. Here it is: “Look every girl i meet assumes i’m a player, just because i’m cool and decent looking and confident, it’s not fair, i’ve missed out on some really good girls in my life because of it. I’m just a guy who wants a real connection with a good girl.” You can use that. But, make it you’re own, i don’t want to be in a club or on the street and hear some douchebag saying this line verbatim.
And that’s it my friends, if you are getting the player vibe, don’t spend all you’re time trying to defend yourself, just point out to her, that look, i get it, but that’s not me. Reassure her that she isn’t just a body or a hole that you need to fill (even if that be true to you) – and then move on. Once she’s relaxed and lowered her ASD you move forward and get ready for the next shit test.
